Leo is driving us nuts at the moment, he is completely obsessed with "The Singing Kettle" DVDs, and others. If you don't put it on for him he throws a real tantrum, which is not the problem, its that he pulls out all the DVDs and can open the DVD player drawer and put them on (we have a lock on the glass doors, hes pretty clever like that!) and try as we are he will not stop, it might not sound a lot but it is driving us nuts, he will not listen to "no" at all, and when you tell him no and put them all away again he just pulls them straight back out. With Freya it was much easier as she grasped the whole "no" thing quite quickly and we introduced the naughty corner when she was about Leos age, but he would not get that at all as I'm sure you all appreciate. So any suggestions? Apart from moving the DVDs (nowhere to put them) we cant keep giving in to him as he just sits in front of the telly and no matter how stimulating you are or how much you try hes not interested... If you turn off the telly he just turns it back on.
Personally I would persist with the naughty corner. We are lucky that Holly has learned what no is already... LOL But I will use a naughty stair just like I did with her brothers. I think its important for them to learn that when Mummy and Daddy say enough is enough that they know we mean it.
Try not to get sucked into the "They have special needs" situation, other wise we will be making HUGE rods for our own backs... LOL
this is gonnaa sound terrible but when georgias really naughty i smack her hand not hard but she no's now that if i say no i mean it shes becoming a handful at the mo aswell shes drivin me bonkers!!!!!
Post by sarahncharlimai on Apr 19, 2007 21:20:10 GMT
I agree with rilith boundaries need to be put in to place and leo needs to understand who is in control and giving in will only confuse him, i work with children with special needs so i have seen first hand what can happen if a child is not set firm boundaries, from my experience children with special needs need this to be clear and followed through or behaviours can esculate. we use time out alot at work and this is one stratergy that seems to work for some children, but then i also realise that it is different when it is your own child that you are dealing with and not someone else and im sure i will be needing advice from you guys in t future lol im sorry if i sound patronising, i dont mean to be i just not very good at expressing myself x x
thanks guys, but I have to say I don't do the "they have special needs thing" and don't intend to start, I am a disciplinarian at heart and just dont stand for any "nonsense", I was asking as all the things that worked for Freya don't work for Leo, thought you guys that had been here may have had some tips. The naughty corner is great but mentally Leo is too young. I will just percevere (sp)...
Post by sarahncharlimai on Apr 20, 2007 21:55:30 GMT
hope things improve for you, i am also like yourself i think its cause of my job aswell, all children regardless need to know how to behave and when no means no and we should not really make exceptions just cause of t ds or then there would be bigger issues (if you know what i mean) Im sure leo will begin to understand t naughty corner eventually i suppose in t mean time all the puttin away of t videos will help to keep you fit lol x x Best of luck x x
Leo sounds very much like Aaron - especially their taste in music - must be northern thing ;D Aaron's not totally got the concept of no - except when he doesn't want to do something we get a NO and a big shake of the head!!
I just keep moving him away from the telly or trying to distract him with his toys, but as you know, that doesn't often work.
I agree with you that I am also a disciplinarian, and find that I have to reinforce the discipline twice as much as I did with Ceri. We are persevering and it is paying off, as he now looks at me first to get my reaction before he does something naughty......! Therefore he knows exactly what he is doing, but not quite at the stage where he knows what to do about it (if you get my drift)
Oh no, i know exactly where your coming from except Brodie's obsession is "The Wiggles". In the end we had to move all the dvds/cds to a shelf on the wall. I feel like i spend my whole day going round saying no., no , no ,no to everything but he doesn't seem to learn. Have tried the naughty step which works sometimes but it's hard trying to make him stay on it and it's difficult when he has a real stroppy tantrum because he's getting so strong now!
At Brodie's nursery they use a lot of cards with symbols on with him for different activities and things, so i'm thinking of maybe getting a symbol that i can use for no, like a big red cross or something...lol, don't know if it will work but anythings worth a try!
Lucy's favourite thing at the mo is emptying the cat food all over the floor. Not too bad when its the dry stuff, but when its the tinned & the dish of water, she has her coat on ready to go out and is sitting in the middle of a puddle I could scream!!!! I think she is starting to learn "no" cos she looks to see if I'm watching before she does it, waiting for me to stop her.
It took Amber a while to get the understanding of 'no'. My brother gave me a tip and i started with aaa aaa aaa aaa, with varying degress of loudness, it worked a treat, she did have a fit but she did understand that what she was doing wasn't on. just though i'd my tuppence worth cos it worked for us !!!
p.s. She does understand no now but she still has a fit !!!1
We're finding it really hard to discipline Cameron, hes just started to talk so you tell him NO and do the sign but all he says is Hiya, it is soo adorable and you just end up laughing, he's worked out brian as well and says Hiya then daddy!
Camerons not bad he's just full of mischief! However if your eating and he's not its like his wee world is collapsing down on him, the arms are over his eyes and he is bawling his eyes out
I can relate to this one. Alex is a little tinker at the moment. Every time you lift him up, he either pulls my hair or slaps me. The funny thing is that I will say no and move my hand but before I even get that far he put on a serious face and moves his hand. He knows that he shouldn't be doing it but still does it. He's too young for the naughty corner/seat... just need to persevere ...sigh.
how weird charlie has a thing with my hair too,he just loves to pull it,we also have problems with discipline ,he can understand no but takes absolutely no notice or the little imp waves his pointed finger at you so i know he understands,we have been just sitting him in a "naughty chair" at the mo ,sometimes it works but like others he only has to smile or grin and i just melt he has the most adorable smile and he cocks his head to the side at the same time soooo cute
Yes George just loves to pull hair too. He's even made his sister cry! I do say no and move his hand away but he's probably a bit young to understand. I can just imagine that I'll be like you Pinkshell and melt at the first smile when I do try and discipline him xx
Harrison has always seemed to like pulling at my hair and he quite often hits out at me or his Dad if he's excited. His paediatrician just told us to persevere with saying no, and we sign no very clearly to him. As he has moderate hearing loss (from glue ear) his 'teacher for the deaf' said it's good to use lots of expression in your face too - have tried putting on my cross face when I sign 'naughty' to him but at the moment he is finding this hysterical! He's going through a phase of climbing out of bed, this evening when I told him off he was in fits of giggles!! Must admit it's very difficult to be cross with him when he starts giggling!! I do think perseverance is the key though, so will have to practise my cross looking face so that it's not quite so hilarious to him!
Lisa is OBSESSED with hair pulling, and it's usually poor Rhys whom bares the brunt!
Lisa was soo funny earlier, when I tell her off, I normally point at her and say NO, or DON'T, earlier on she was sat in her usual place, admiring herself in the mirror, and she started to throw her ball at the mirror, so I said 'NO' and pointed at her at the same time, with that she started telling heself off in the mirror, pointing at herself and saying NNN and DDDD. It was soo funny to watch, she was really shouting lol!
We try, she just watches... LOL We are making her one of those books with pictures of her cup and bowl, dummy and other lil bits so she can point to. Hopefully to get her starting to communicate a little.
I think the naughty step is the best bet! Katelyn took twice as long to understand the concept - she thought it was a game and would put her brothers there or even herself and the dolls get it all the time! I don't think she even quite gets it now but its more for me!! It gets her out of the way until I calm down and think of the next step!!