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Post by claireyd22 on May 17, 2008 15:09:04 GMT
Get you little ones to understand what 'no' means? George is forever throwing food and drinks on the floor. If he doesn;t want something he still takes it off you but then throws it. Or if its off a spoon he will will open his mouth for it then spit it back out. I say and sign 'no' to him but he just doesn't seem to understand. I raised my voice the other day and said 'no George, u don;t spit food out, its naughty', and he just laughed. He's two next month, am I expecting too much from him? What do I do? x
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Post by anita on May 17, 2008 15:53:05 GMT
They are little devils Henri does the same but when we shout he cries, so if he starts to throw things or spit things out, I don't give him any more he goes without (hard mummy)
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Post by pinkshell1110 on May 17, 2008 16:52:52 GMT
charlie is exactly the same ,although it did take a long time but after perservering he finally understood no,, but like most men and kids chooses to ignore you or signs no back , love shell,charlie and jasmin xxxxxxxxx
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Post by lisajg on May 17, 2008 18:44:44 GMT
Harry's teacher for the deaf told me I need to make sure I show that I'm cross by the expression on my face, I felt a bit daft to start with and Harry used to laugh at me (can't say that I blame him!) but now that he's getting bigger he does seem to understand when he's doing something naughty and I tell him 'no' and that I'm cross with him. Although like most little boys he certainly has a mind of his own and will sometimes try and ignore me!
George is still very little and you're doing all the right things so it's just a case of being firm and persevering (that's what I tell myself anyway!) xxxx
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Post by odiness on May 19, 2008 19:45:12 GMT
Lol Claire, I reckon he knows what no means he just doesn't like the word! Perhaps i kid myself but Jasmine is only 8 months and when I say no or tell her off she frowns. The other day her grandma asked her if she was being naughty and she shook her head, perhaps a coincidence? lol
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Post by max on May 19, 2008 19:48:20 GMT
Caleb is not much younger and is getting there with "no" I do have to act extra cross though and do cross face. It's all about making it more visual I guess.
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Post by sharon22 on May 20, 2008 2:37:42 GMT
When I say no to Jack, sign no and put on a cross face he just turns round and says "ta ta ma ma" Gordon is nearly rolling round the floor which just makes matters worse.
little monkey
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Post by Rilith on May 20, 2008 5:57:37 GMT
Holly has always responded well to "No", even from a teeny dot. But totally agree, its not only the voice, but the face too. With the throwing... drove me potty with Holly...LOL But we used to hold her hands down while we said "No... No Throwing" if she went to throw, we would try to get her hands first and repeat, and do that as often as needed.
Also a good way is someone they only see once or twice... ask them to tell them too. The stranger telling them will sneep them because they are not used to being told off by them, so it will reinforce it... Mean I know, but it does work... LOL
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Post by lizzymd² on May 20, 2008 10:57:16 GMT
I know what your going through, its so frustrating. Cameron does exactly the same, we say no and do the sign and show him we're cross and he just carries on.
He throws his spoon (plastic) away but we drilled a hole in it and tied it to his wrist with string!! Sooo funny first time he tried to throw it away.
Brian says we have to be patient because he has learning difficulties and I say yes but its not a learning IMPOSSIBILTY!!!
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Post by claireyd22 on May 20, 2008 14:57:28 GMT
Thanks for all the replies, its good to know its not just George. I do a 'cross' face but it doesn;t seem to bother him at all x
Lizzy, pmsl at drilling a hole in his spoon, bet that was funny xx
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Post by tracy108 on May 21, 2008 9:46:57 GMT
when i say no it falls on deaf ears..when cory say/signs no its NO and theres no changing his mind....i should take a tip from him...lol
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Post by lizzymd² on May 21, 2008 10:24:34 GMT
Well I've bought this book for £5.64
How to Say No to Your Toddler: Creating a Safe, Rational, and Effective Discipline Program for Your 9-Month to 3-Year Old
Will let you know how I get on.
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Post by sarah on May 22, 2008 20:13:08 GMT
Bear with me, it'll be a long one!! Well... me and Daniel went to our usual monthly development group run by the Downs Syndrome Educational trust (they do loads of research and know what they are talking about!!) and another mum brought up the subject of how to say NO and stop her child from throwing things - Daniel throws stuff to, so I joined in the conversation... apparently its quite common in ALL children but our kiddies can take longer to 'grow' out of it. HOWEVER ,this is what she said about how to deal with it... When they do the throwing, dont give them eye contact or say anything, because as soon as you do, its giving them some sort of reaction, and at this stage, ANY reaction is a good one in their eyes!! By us reacting, its reinforcing the behaviour (apparently) So by doing obvious ignoring (or removing and ignoring if its really bad!) they arent getting the reaction they wanted so will stop... hopefully!!! Ive been doing the really cross face and loud NO to Daniel, but it hasnt really worked, so I'll try this way and see what happens!! Also its about anticipating when it happens too, and doing things to prevent as well (holding bowls down or not having so many toys around to throw!)as stop the behaviour. Hope it helps - it was a real suprise to me, as I've been doing the complete opposite with Daniel...so we'll see!! Good luck!!! xx
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Post by claireyd22 on May 22, 2008 20:50:03 GMT
Thanks Sarah, thats interesting, its the complete opposite to what we've been doing with George so I'll definately give it a try xx
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