OK, I know this sounds bizzare but I don't know whether Jasmine is displaying behavioural problems or just being a typical toddler! lol. She is my only child and I don't have much experience of other children so maybe you can help me out....
Firstly we have the excessively loud and lengthy shouting, usually towards the end of the day but they can occur at any time, she just starts shouting at the top of her voice and it can go on for anything up to an hour... when I say shouting I mean it, even my mum's neighbours have commented. It often happens when I put her in her high chair for dinner, she just goes on and on and on!!!! I've tried shouting at her, getting her out, giving her food, drinks etc. I think she is just trying to communicate but she gets so frustrated and I loose my rag because the noise she makes is just ear piercing!
Then we have the spates of let's hit Mummy, pull her hair or pinch her. She only does it with me when I pick her up. She does it with such a spiteful look on her face as well.
I make her out to be a little madam, overall she's adorable but we're going through these phases and I'm not exactly sure of the best way to handle it. Telling her it's wrong just doesn't seem to sink in.
Hi Lucy , Well just to let you know there is no typical toddler - Rachel is my 4th & each one has been different ! But it certainly sounds like she's testing the boundaries, often toddlers when they find a certain behaviuour that irritates or gets a reaction will latch onto this behaviour & repeat it over & over . Sometimes the best course of action is to ignore the irritating behaviour & praise good behaviour - so for instance if Jasmine is shouting through dinner don't comment on the noise ( very hard I know) but if she eats, picks up her cup , smiles any small thing that's positive then praise her up for it. We had a bad run of Rachel chucking everything off her highchair, I won't say she never does it now but its much better. The spates of pinching , pulling hair etc are a bit harder cos you can't ignore as she needs to learn what is acceptable behaviour & you don't want it happening with other children. I think maybe I would go for a very stern face, say & sign NO & maybe say & sign naughty, put her down & then just leave it at that . I know that Rachel is understanding alot more than she is able to communicate , I have watched her doing something she shouldn't be & looking round to see if anyone is watching . So although it may seem that Jasmine isn't getting the message I bet she is - she's just choosing to ignore it at the moment which is how toddlers are !
Any way I hope this is of some help, feel free to ignore it all . Let us know how you get on Susan
Hi Lucy I totally agree with Susan. Ruby is my fifth child - she is nearly three now - she went through a 12 month stage of pinching me - I thought it would never end - she's stopped now. Currently she insists on turning off the tv. She knows its wrong she just cant help herself. I would not say her toddler behaviour is any better or worse than any of my other children. It just seems to take her a bit longer to get the message and for the behaviour to stop. Choose your preferred plan and STICK to it! I am sure you are doing just fine.
Hi Lucy Agreeing with the above. Kate is oldest of four and every one has had a different variation on "Lets see what gets the best reaction" whether it is being good or very bad, usually the latter. Kate is now 6 and although her behaviour has vastly improved, which I put down to being able to communicate better now, she still has her little tantrums - shouting, slamming doors, grabbing and pushing. I walk away, don't make eye contact and she finds out its not so much fun having a tantrum to an empty room. When she calms down and says sorry, I make a big of her. Everyone is different and what works for us might not work for everyone.
Hi, I'm glad I;ve seen this thread as so much of it sounds like George. He always throws things, especially food and drinks, he;ll take it from you as if he wants it but then just throws it. His latest thing is hitting - usually his poor sister. Just today I was walking passed her in the kitchen while holding George and he just swiped out and hit her straight in the face. I told him off immediately and made him say sorry (which is a hug), he did hug her but puts on a false cry himself as if for sympathy! I;m going to try ignoring the throwing but will have to tell him off for hitting. He seems to do a very good impression of someone who doesn't understand but I;m sure he knows what he is doing is wrong - I just wish he would stop. All kids test the boundaries though so I suppose they are all displaying 'typical' behaviour? love claire xxxxx