Well i decided to have my 16 wk blood screening test.thought after everything we'd been through it would be ok. The nurse rang today and said it had come back 1 in 200 so considered high risk,she did say that my hormone level looked ok but they also take in to accont my age (29) my weight (i am a bit overweight) the fact that ihave had spotting during my pregnancy and because i already have a child with DS so i was told it would come back a higher risk but i never expected this. I cant wait another 22 wks not knowing so ive been booked in for amnio on friday hopefully the results will be back for wed,i really didnt want an amnio but feel ive no choice it would drive me nuts not knowing....im sooo confuesed and upset,i was really hoping my bloods would show i was low risk.i just keep thinking what if i miscarry or it shows something wrong?? i already have 2 children that may never live independant lives how could i cope with 3?? i do all the appts and everything else ny myself as hubby works 7 days a week and goes to the gym most nites..how could i cope again but i really want this baby andlove it already and can feel it move.... i just want to forget about the blood test i wish id never had it done!!
awww hun big hugs, i have not had one.if this is what you have to do hun it's for the best you NEED to know, you are incredibly strong and you cope with josh and aaliyah brilliantly. you know i am always here for you hun.you are a fantastic mum and i am sure whatever comes your way babe you will cope . you know where i am babe speak soon lots of love n hugs shell,charlie and moo xxxxxxxxx
Aaawww Heather, so sorry to hear that your so upset. I've never had an amnio as wasn;t classed a high risk when I had George (or Esme) but I think you've got to follow your gut instinct, like you say it will drive you mad not knowing for the rest of your pg. Its got to be good that your hormone levels were ok and remember that there's still 199 chances in 200 that everything is fine. Take care and keep in touch on here xxxxx
I just wanted to say a huge thank you to all those that have offered there support today!!
And that i spoke with DH when he came home from work and he has said to just "go for it" as in lets just get on with the pregnancy and not bother with the amnio as surely lightening cant stike 3 times,to say i was suprized at his reaction is an understatement as i hadnt even considered what he might want.
Im going to ask if they can bring my 20wk scan forward as its currently at 21+2 and have a detailed scan that would look for soft markers and possibly bring the cardiac scan forward because my biggest fear of Downs syndrome is baby may have major heart defeats as we've been lucky with Aaliyah as she is healthy apart from a slight hearing loss and if these scans show up something then decide about the amnio.
Im ust worrying that without a clear yes or no that im not going to bond with the baby from now till birth as i'll worry something will be wrong?? But i cant justify risking a MC just based on a 1 in 200 chance.
hun, you have no need to worry you said you already love the baby and can feel it move so bonding after birth will be instant for you hun,i know you and david and the kids will love this baby no matter what the outcome.i know loads of people who's bloods have shown them at a much higher risk than yours, one of my friends was 1 in 4 and her little man was fine.you know we are all here for you if you need us, and you know where i live hun. Take care babes lots of love n hugs shell,charlie and moo xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Post by sarahncharlimai on Apr 9, 2008 7:02:18 GMT
Hi heather, just to let you know im thinking about you i would have posted already about the amnio but ive had difficulty getting on the computer, its good that you and hubby have talked things through, its a big decesion i was like you not sure if i could cope with the not knowing, but eithert way i agree with what pinkshell said that youve already got a strong bond with babe and that you will cope with what ever sorry im not very good with words, anyway hope your feeling a little better x
Hi Heather, glad to hear that you sound a bit happier about it all after talking to your hubby. It must be so hard for you having all this extra worry. I hope they can get you an earlier scan, i read on bounty recently about a marker scan, do you want me to find the link for you and post it on here? Don't worry about not bonding with your baby, you already love it and once its born those feelings will be there as strong as ever. Take care, lots of love Claire xxx ps, if I lived closer I;d come and see you xxxxxx
You will be at high risk anyway, the figures they use are total codswallop... LOL You know yourself people have been low risk and still been the 1, and then people have been told 1 in 3 and been part of the 3. The blood tests are just best guess to me and cause more heart ache and upset than any other part of pregnancy.
((((((((((((((((((((((((( HUGE HUGS HUN )))))))))))))))))))))))))))))
Hi Heather, Just wanted to let you know I was thinking about you too, sorry the tests are causing you so much stress but good to hear you and hubby feel better about things now you've chatted and decided what to do. I was classed as low risk when I was pregnant with Harry and I wouldn't be surprised if the majority of folks on here were told low risk too, so I agree with Rilith, these figures can be codswallop and sometimes I think the tests cause more stress than they're worth. Hope you are feeling better about things today. Take care xxx
Awww Heather, sorry to hear you've had high risk results and are anxious. As everyone has said, I'm sure things will be fine for you this time round but it sounds like you have support of your DH and the baby will be loved no matter what. I think the detailed scan sounds like a good plan and will keep my fingers crossed that all looks ok. Big hugs from me and Jasmine. Take care hun. xxx