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Nov 16, 2006 9:51:52 GMT
Post by max on Nov 16, 2006 9:51:52 GMT
why why why can't I stop being scared of what the future holds for my baby? Caleb is 8 weeks old today and he's fine! Every test has come back clear (apart from the chromasome test of course) every doctor we have seen has said that he acts like a totally normal baby. He is strong, he is developing well, our GP said he couldn't be healthier and it's a real best case scenario - so why am I still so scared and just waiting for something to show up or go wrong?? I love him so much and just want to save him from everything - please tell me it all gets easier! (maybe I have PMT - apologies for ranting when I don't know you much yet!)
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Nov 16, 2006 11:35:19 GMT
Post by Jojo on Nov 16, 2006 11:35:19 GMT
I think we're all scared of what the future brings for our children whether they have a disability or not.
What you feel is totally natural and only because you love him soo much.
At 8 weeks he's still very young and as he gets older you will feel more confident.
It's great news that he's doing so well, my Lisa has no medical probs either and I am so grateful for that.
She's 18 months old now, and though I still worry for her,(as I do with my other children) it's nothing like those first few months. I just enjoy her soo much....she's soo yummy lol!
You're only human, so you're bound to worry......I promise it will get better....take care Jojo.xxx
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Nov 16, 2006 12:25:04 GMT
Post by lizzymd² on Nov 16, 2006 12:25:04 GMT
Your feelings are totally naturally, my goodness when i think back to when camster was 8 weeks old, i think i was in a daze, learning all about what the doctors say the future will hold for him! The docs don't know everything, they generalise and if his paed had seen him recently she would be amazed at him, he babbles for scotland "mamamama, dadadada" then "ah d" (we thinks hes trying to say "ah dog!" ............. lol), he shouts at us when we're eating and hes not.
And back at 8 weeks with the doom and gloom picture that was painted I would never have thought he would be doing this
Brian and I have already made plans that he will live with us until we die or he dies, whether he likes it or not.
Also thats why i'm pregnant again, so when we're gone he'll have his big brother alex (12 years older) and 1 who'll be close in age and we're planning another after this one.
we are a very happy family, and i think that shows in cameron. The more time and effort you spend with him, the more you'll get back.
I will say I have more fear and protection for cameron than I ever did for alex.
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Nov 16, 2006 20:22:26 GMT
Post by Rilith on Nov 16, 2006 20:22:26 GMT
I would think there was something wrong with you if you weren't worried hun. I think part of it is down to the protection thing we get when we know there is something wrong with our babies. We just want to hold them close and never let them grow up to go out in to the cruel hard world.
I also worry every day about what the future holds. But I do the same for my others to, like JoJo
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Nov 16, 2006 20:30:26 GMT
Post by pinkshell1110 on Nov 16, 2006 20:30:26 GMT
of course it's only natural hun, i don't think we'd be human if we didn't worry
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Nov 17, 2006 10:52:51 GMT
Post by max on Nov 17, 2006 10:52:51 GMT
just wanted to say thank you and that Charlie and Cameron are such gorgeous boys that my husband and I have got a lot of comfort just looking at their pictures - they are stunners!! if caleb is half that cute I'll be thrilled! the girls are lovely too but i have a boy so look to the boys as a bit mor of a guideline if you know what i mean. I'll try and post a pic of caleb soon.
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Nov 17, 2006 14:16:00 GMT
Post by pinkshell1110 on Nov 17, 2006 14:16:00 GMT
thank you so much can't wait for the piccies of caleb i bet he's a real cutie and 'im so pleased that you both have got alot of comfort from the piccies, i don't know about you but i'm ashamed to say that when charlie was first diagnosed i only thought of the typical looking"Downs" child (sorry ) but straight away that thought went and i just see charlie and all babes with D'S as individual beautiful little angels who have been sent to special parents who are going to love and care for them as they deserve to be ,
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Nov 17, 2006 15:09:00 GMT
Post by Rilith on Nov 17, 2006 15:09:00 GMT
I was the same with Holly when she was born, I admit, I still tick all the boxes in my head that says she has Downs. Its prolly my reality check I still do, Knowing me I will do it for the rest of my life... LOL
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Nov 17, 2006 18:18:32 GMT
Post by katie29 on Nov 17, 2006 18:18:32 GMT
i feel all those fears i think its only natural to feel this way, marshall is eight months now and developing and meeting his milestones and each day i feel more positive abouit the futurexxxxxxxxxxxx
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