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Post by max on Feb 19, 2007 16:25:55 GMT
I am getting worried about my DH. When we first had Caleb I fell apart - don't really know why now, but I was so scared and felt like the bottom had fallen out of my world. DH was a total rock and carried me through it all.
Now however, I KNOW he adores Caleb, he plays with him and both their faces light up, he changed nappies, he gets him dressed he is an absolute gem but he still doesn't really talk about the Downs, he gets upset if people comment and he just seems weighed down by it. I don't really care anymore - I mean I do care, but it's not such a huge issue, I don't really notice it. DH is far too scared to contemplate any more kids and I just don't think he gets the support that I do - I see the Doctors and the HV, he just seems to carry this pain and fear around with him. I'm worried.
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Post by pinkshell1110 on Feb 19, 2007 17:01:02 GMT
max my DH is exactly the same ,he loves charlie to bits and said he's the best thing thats ever happened to him but he never talks about the Downs and he still can't see the Downs in him, i think thats just his way of coping ,he too was scared of having more kids although we definetly didn't plan anymore it was a huge shock when i fell pregnant with jasmin 6 months later.Caleb is young and he may change his mind as he gets older lots of love n hugs shell xxxxx
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Post by nikki on Feb 19, 2007 18:45:06 GMT
nicks the same 2 he doesnt talk bout the downs at all i think it must just b a man thing doesnt mean they dont love them any less tho
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Post by Rilith on Feb 20, 2007 21:10:57 GMT
Carl was and is always able to talk about it. I think it was the matter of I kept saying it over and over. It was my way of dealing with it. I would tell anyone and everyone that my bump had Downs, and when Holly arrived I was very proud of her and would tell everyone. I think it has healped Carl with coming with me to ALL Holly's appointments and getting it out and meeting other Mums and Dads in the same boat as us.
Men are quieter though. I'm sure he is just trying to be protective of him.
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