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Post by michelle1987 on Jan 12, 2008 21:42:57 GMT
hey i was just wondering if any of you were concerned with ur lo as they become an adult i no thet areonly babies at the min. but will my marry have babies etc. i was told by genetics that the change of kimmy having a ds baby with a man without ds was 1 in 3 and having one with a ds partner was 2 in 3. im soo sad as i want her to have the life liek everyone else!
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Post by max on Jan 13, 2008 14:07:56 GMT
I felt like this at first and then as I work with teenagers I decided that I would be pleased just to have Caleb grow up and do well! If he marrys then great - maybe he could have children, maybe not! Who am I to say, I just want him to be happy and healthy! I guess it can bring you down or make you sad but I have to consiously decide not to think like that and adulthood is a long way away - who knows what things will be like by then!
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Post by claireyd22 on Jan 13, 2008 14:31:59 GMT
I can remember the first evening at hospital when I'd had George and there was questions about him having downs, I sat crying that he'll never get married and never have kids. One of the doctors said to me that he is a baby first so just enjoy him as that. Adulthood is such a long way off that I don't really focus on it but it does come into my thoughts now and then. Also the other night I had a dream that George was an adult but was still doing childish things - playing on a slide so I guess subconciously I am thinking about it. It was a relief when I woke up and saw George still a baby ifkwim. I've also read that females with ds have more chance of conveiving than males but I've not come accross any figures. Try not to dwell on the future too much and just enjoy Kimmy for who she is - they grow up to quick xx
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Post by Rilith on Jan 13, 2008 20:35:11 GMT
I don#t really think of it too much yet, but when I do I think more of it about her teen years rather than her adult years. Will she want to hang around with her mates, will she be trying to join in by getting drunk and falling about.
Part of me wants to make sure she stays little and protect her, I can't imagine her being like a "normal" teen, what if she does want to do these things though, do I let her?? do I tell her no and set that boundary that she IS different??? Its a toughy, but I am sure when it comes to it we will all make the right decisions for our lil ones, we can only do the best we can and give them as rich a life as possible, so when they become adults they are happy well balanced adults
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Post by debs4 on Jan 13, 2008 20:41:07 GMT
I do worry about what the future holds for Gemma but then I worry about my other children to a certain extent. Who knows what the future holds. I would love Gemma to get married and maybe have kids but as long as she is happy in whatever she does then I will be happy. Adulthood is a long way off and I just want to enjoy every minute with her as a little girl as they grow so fast and I dont want to miss a minute of her childhood. Just enjoy your gorgeous little girl every day xx
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Post by michelle1987 on Jan 13, 2008 21:27:36 GMT
i no im just being silly and thinking too much the brain tends to do things to u haha
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Post by sarahncharlimai on Jan 13, 2008 23:12:33 GMT
your not silly hun, im sure we all have days when we think to far ahead i know i do, try not to but i cant help it sometimes, when i was pg i remember driving in my car and i had to pull over because i could not see for tears, my friend said what the matter i told her that i was said as my little one would probably never learn to drive, then once i said that various things came out my mouth like, seeing her walk down the aisle etc my friend helped to calm me down, i still have days sometimes like this but i try to remind my self that i cant plan or control Charli's future and as long as she is happy thats the main thing x
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Post by odiness on Jan 13, 2008 23:58:10 GMT
Hi Michelle, I think it's only natural to wonder what the future holds for your little one. I have done exactly the same. Something that made me optomistic was going to a local downs group and hearing about the older kids and young adults with DS. Many were at high school or college and doing really well, a couple of Mums told me that their children were preparing to leave home and move into community housing where they would have independance but still be cared for, one was getting engaged to a girlfriend with DS. As others have said, as hard as it is try to push those worries to the back of your mind and enjoy every moment with your little one. Lucy x
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Post by max on Jan 14, 2008 13:58:54 GMT
(by the way Sarah - 3 teenagers with DS in my area have just passed their driving tests! 2 girls and a boy)
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Post by brandy on Jan 15, 2008 12:14:53 GMT
there is a woman with downs round my area who got married.i also know of a girl with downs who lives near a friend who is at uni at the mo' she went through school and was kept back a year but if it's helped get her through colleage and uni then it can't do any harm.there is also a guy with downs who works at asda round our way.just a few examples. but weather a child has downs or not they are all different in what they achieve the main thing is whatever happens the child is happy.
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Post by max on Jan 16, 2008 8:21:51 GMT
My parents in law went to a cafe the other day that was ownder by a man with DS - he didn't just work there, he owned it! had bought the shop, employed people - everything! The staff didn't have DS and said he was the best employer aparently!
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Post by claireyd22 on Jan 16, 2008 20:51:51 GMT
Thats really good to hear, just goes to show we don;t know what lies ahead for any of our kids - with or without ds xx
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Post by glory50 on Feb 16, 2008 20:26:53 GMT
i have just been reading all your replies and would like to say how good it is you all help each other, but most of all i want claire to know how proud i am of her when i read all her positive comments xx.
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Post by lesley on Feb 17, 2008 19:54:16 GMT
I agree. I think everyone on here is marvellous, and I'm really proud of my daughter Tina and her husband Paul and how they have coped with everything and Brodie is our little ray of sunshine xx
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Post by michelle1987 on Feb 17, 2008 22:30:42 GMT
i have to say that these ladies have helped me loads since kimmy was born its nice to have ppl to talk to i have no one to relate to at home thanks chicks
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Post by tantalizintina on Feb 21, 2008 11:29:27 GMT
hiya... didnt i read somewhere that ppl with ds cant reproduce? xxx
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Post by claireyd22 on Feb 21, 2008 13:46:07 GMT
Hi, no I think there is less chance of males reproducing but there was a lady with ds in the papers last year or the year before who had a baby with a man that didn't have ds x
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Post by tantalizintina on Feb 21, 2008 21:51:41 GMT
wow.. thats cool. x
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Post by michelle1987 on Feb 22, 2008 18:38:35 GMT
i have that big teddy lol i heard it was male that had prob concieving
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