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Post by pinkshell1110 on Sept 19, 2007 21:40:27 GMT
hi all well charlie started nursery on monday he seemed to enjoy but today he had tears when i left him it broke my heart,but i feel that something is'nt right i cant put my finger on it tho! i was also wondering if anyone could point me in the right direction i am wondering if it would help charlie if he went to a special needs nursery too no-one has suggested it but i feel that with all his medical problems he has got so far behind,he does'nt seem to want to mix with his peers at all preferring his own company. could someone let me know who i should get in contact with to get some advice. The whole nursery thing has got me so stressed i have been to see gp who has prescribed light sleeping tablets obviously they help me sleep but dont help with what i am going through cos this has really got to me. many thanx love shell xxxxxxxxxxx
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Post by nikki on Sept 20, 2007 8:31:41 GMT
awww shell have you spoke to your health visitor about a special needs nursery for charlie?? it was my health visitor who got georgia into hers. georgia loves her special needs one and even has a little boyfriend whos also downs. hope you get it sorted nikki + georgia xxx
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Post by tracy108 on Sept 20, 2007 9:01:28 GMT
my cory goes to a special nursery...i wanted to send him to a mainstrem one but when i visited and see all the children i knew i would be to bewildering and that they wouldnt be able to be meet cory's needs...his portage and hv told me of the one he goes to now ..there is a smaller number of children and they understand all cory's requirements and they work with him on his level and at his pace(he teaches them a few things as well) and coz of the smaller numbers there is more patience..i wouldnt change it..he can now count,reconise a few words and knows all his colours and songs..all in sign(speach is coming)...he also has all his appointments at scholl so no more dragging him around the country...
getting back to your charlie would the noise be scaring him...cory hates loud noises or maybe its just to hectic he is used to working with you and or someONE else... i hope my ramble helps in some way tracy xx
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Post by heather1979 on Sept 20, 2007 9:07:34 GMT
AWW Shell!! ((((((hugs)))))) im sorry that your feeling like this and to be honest so am i!!!! Aaliyah starts whimpering as where going down the passage from the junior school as she knows whats coming and by the time we get to school she has worked herself up and just throws herself on the floor crying and i feel like such a bi*ch for leaving her but they say after a few minutes shes ok and is making good progress,although it worries me still as her speech is soo limited and all the other kids are talking away and planning what there going to do at break and talking about what they've done etc but ui know they all love Aaliyah and understand that she is different but not in a bad way,i asked if she played at dinner time and her one 2 one which is FAB said that she runs after them and calls them over but that she likes to sit on the benches and that the other kids come over to her but that made me feel really said cos i know shes not like them ,but we will just have to see how she gets on. If you feel somethings not right then speak to the education officer or the person whos name is on Charlies statement,I hope you get it sorted out Shell!! Heather.x
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Post by pinkshell1110 on Sept 20, 2007 9:08:59 GMT
hi there i think my problem is that i cant protect him anymore while charlie went to a special needs creche he never once cried and sometimes wouldn't even notice that i had come to collect him and at nursery he cries as soon as we walk through the door and when i collect him his arms are stretched out for me and then he starts crying ,maybe it is a bit noisy for him and there are so many other children there and it has only been 4 days but i think i may have a word with my HV just to enquire about maybe combining the 2 nurseries . many thanx everyone love shell xxxxxxx
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Post by debs4 on Sept 20, 2007 9:20:23 GMT
It must be so upsetting for you to leave Charlie crying. We are just in the throws of getting Gemma into a Special Needs Nursery, although there are some mainstream children there aswell so if she gets in hopefully she will have the best of both worlds. My Health Visitor started the ball rolling, and we have had to have reports done by Physio, Speech Therapist, Portage and her Consultant has also done a letter. I think we have to have an Educational Psychologist come out to assess Gemma then it goes to a panel and they decide if Gemma can go to where we want her to. Its very long winded but hopefully she will get in. I would definitly talk to your Health Visitor xxx
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Post by tina79 on Sept 20, 2007 10:30:49 GMT
Hi Shell,
Could be the noise that he doesn't like, Brodie used to be funny about loud noises and lots of people but now he's been at his mainstream nursery for over a year i think he's gotten used to it and in the last couple of months has really come out of his shell. He still plays on his own quite a lot but he is getting better at joining in now his speech is coming on and i think he can understand quite a bit of what people are saying even if they can't always understand him! lol
Sounds like combining both nurseries would be a great idea if you can do it as that way Charlie would get the best of both. x x
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Post by lisajg on Sept 21, 2007 17:52:02 GMT
Hi Shell, Just reading your thread and I can relate to how you're feeling. Harry is still so tiny (in 12-18 mth clothes) and his health probs really slowed him down too, when I saw him next to the other kids at mainstream it just seemed more prominent because he is so diddy next to them. At the mo Harry is starting a split placement between mainstream and a special needs nursery, his health visitor + portage worker were a good source of advice but it was his SENCO at our LEA who put this all in place for Harry. Does Charlie have a SENCO? Also, does he have 1 on 1 support at his nursery, someone who is there just for him?
When Harry was at his old nursery it was often noisy as there were hoardes of kids, so if he was upset by the noise one of the girls would take him in the quiet corner to look at a book. Also, not sure if your Charlie is the same but it always takes Harry a while to get used to a new environment and new people before he's happy. I think sometimes you have to go with your gut instinct, Harry's first day at mainstream was pretty awful but a few days later he seems happy and I think that is because the staff there are lovely.
I know it's heartbreaking when they're upset, I felt like a right cowbag on the first day leaving him crying but I'm sure it will get better for Charlie. BIG HUGS for both of you from me and Harry xx
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Post by heather1979 on Sept 22, 2007 10:50:38 GMT
Hi Shell, How'd Charlie get on on friday?? Have you spoken to the Nursery staff about your concerns??I'll look out for you monday morning, you could always pop in to mine on the way home for a cuppa and a chat,im usually in..... cleaning up!! Heather.x
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Post by debbie43 on Sept 23, 2007 14:45:31 GMT
Hi Shell, After reading your thread thought I would let you know what happened to Thomas when he started nursery last week. I was advised by his portage worker to put him into mainstream nursery and a special needs one. I managed to get him 2 mornings at mainstream and 2 at special needs. Thomas started them both last week, first he went to mainstream one, no one introduced themselfs to us, no one had bothered getting info on Thomas before he joined he was just sent off with other children and expected to know what to do. His first day he cried when i left, they called me back in after 30 mins to stay with him which I did and not one person tried to befriend Thomas or get him to join in. The next 2 times I took him they said it would be best if I stayed which I did and he was so upset and again not one person spoke to Thomas. I was furious at this especially as they had been given £4,000 by Senco and given an extra memeber of staff for Thomas to have one to one. I eventually rang up the chairperson and told her what I thought of her nursery and took Thomas out, no way were they geared up for special needs children. Now the special needs nursery was totally different, yes he cried when he first went but they were there straight away making friends with Thomas and making him feel comfortable with his surroundings. Thomas now goes to this nursey no bother at all and his teacher who he become attached to alsways greets him and makes him feel comfortable so that I can just leave him there and not have any problems. I can only say what it was like for Thomas as I am sure there are many mainstream nurserys that are great but ours was way too big and over powering and they didn't even know what Makaton was so we shall be sticking to the special needs one for now and maybe when Thomas is a little older we will try another mainstream one.
Debbie
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Post by pinkshell1110 on Sept 24, 2007 4:29:02 GMT
well he cried again on friday and clung to my legs like a little chimp, anyway karen his noe to one took him,i had only been home 20 mins when the phone rang it was the school could i go and collect him as he had explosive diarrheor (sp), and they had had a few kids off with tummy upsets ,he has had the upset tummy all weekend so no nursery today he has to stay off 48 hours after the last episode so i suppose we are going to have to start all over again. i have spoken to my HV ofr advice and she has basically said to give him a little longer to see how things go if we are still not happy to speak to the SENCO(headmistress) who i have never met and his ed psych so we dedcided to give him till half term and see what happens xxxxxxxx
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Post by sarahncharlimai on Sept 24, 2007 12:48:29 GMT
my heart goes out to all of you parents that are going through this at the moment, i really feel for you shell and i hope things improve for Charlie, it sounds like a good idea to see how he settles at the mo sorry i have got no advice as Charli is still young and we are not at that stage yet. Big hugs for you x x x
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Post by lisajg on Sept 24, 2007 18:28:41 GMT
BIG HUGS for you and Charlie, hope his tummy is better soon and he can start to enjoy nursery more.
I have found myself wishing the next few months away because I'm thinking maybe Harry will have settled in his nursery by xmas!! Today when I left him there were legs and arms flying everywhere as he tried to escape!!
Take care xx
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Post by maz500 on Sept 26, 2007 22:11:43 GMT
Hi Shell
I haven't been on this site for months and months but just had to reply to your message once I'd seen it.
Cai has just started nursery too. Like you didn't know where to send him and after looking around I opted for a mainstream nursery with special needs provision. (there are 6 children with special needs in the class and 3 members of staff specifically for them). They are allowed to mingle with general lessons but then he is taken into another room for work one-to-one or in group of 2/3.
So far so good, he is loving every minute of it. The only problem we have had has been his reaction to the taxi taking him to school. It really distressed him and every morning I was sending him off to this new place in tears. It's horrible isn't it.
It is early days and Charlie will probably settle but I think you need to meet with the staff who will be teaching him. Be open about how you and Charlie are feeling and sus them out. Remember, if your child didn't have special needs and was not settling you would still do the same in that instance.
Cai hasn't been statemented yet, this is likely for next year. However, an Education Officer advised me of Cai's options and I just had to hope my request was fulfilled.
Good luck. I will try to log on a bit more to see how Charlie and all the other new starts are doing. Take Care!
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