Danny and I have been to a group called time out for quite a while now and yesterday one of the mothers approached me when I went to pick up the girls from school and said Danny should go to a playgroup with children like Danny I was so upset but did not say much as the girls were there but now I dont know what to do if any of you have had this problem please tell me how you dealt with it as at first I was feeling that I could not go back to the group or face seeing any of them but I dont want any of them to think that I am ashamed of Danny as I am not . Part of me feels I should go back to the group and confront them all and say if they dont like Danny being there they had better leave as Danny is staying but then I really dont want to put Danny in that enviroment . Anyway end of rant sorry guys but I needed to get it off my chest
Gemma is the same age as Danny and touch wood we have had nothing like that happen. If it ever did I would be so angry, how can some people be so cruel. He has as much right to be there as any child, and I would certainly go back there. I think wherever we go there is always going to be someone that has to say something, but hopefully it wont happen too often. I would just ignore the person who spoke to you and go in there as normal and carry on as normal, especially if you have been going there for a while. If you dont go back she has won and thats not right.
Post by sarahncharlimai on Aug 29, 2007 20:12:39 GMT
I agree with what everyone else has said hun, im sorry that someone has been so nasty to you, but she is the one with the problem not you or Danny and you have every right to go there. Hope our words have helped you to feel a little better x x
oooh that makes my blood boil!!!! Did she give a reason for saying Danny should be with other children like him?? If it were me I would go back to the group and say something along the lines of " (name of lady) mentioned that maybe Danny should not be part of this group and to be honest I was shocked to think people still think like that in this day and age! Surely it helps all the children to accept each other as they are and become better people - or does anyone else think I should be ashamed of him and hide him away" I'd name her and shame her! DISGUSTING!!!!!! Sending you lots of hugs and cups of tea to make it better! Tell Danny he can come to any of the lovely groups I go to anytime - I've never had any negative comment infact just the opposite he is adored by pretty much everyone!
How dare she!!! Danny has every right to be there. Danny is a person first and has Downs second. If they mention it again just point out that under the "Discriminations Act" you could have them removed from the group. You are within your rights to make an official complaint and trust me the law and media will be on your side. I am sure they won't want that!! Good Luck and well done for standing up to small minded people.
Well thanks for all your comments due my complaints about the group there will no longer be a time out group and I have arranged for the girls to start a new school out of the area which they seem lots happier about so fingers crossed it will make a difference to us all
I feel that the group being closed is abit extreme and it is not fair on the people that dont think like this lady I thought they might have asked her to leave at the most I feel quite bad for the people who use this group and have no other chance of time out or to meet other parents and I have asked they dont stop it for everyone but whether they have listened I dont know they said they would re think it. The girls start school 6 miles away on monday and we are looking to moving there as my oldest daughter is getting bullied in this area now on top of everything else and although moving school will help Kayliegh still has to put up with it after school.