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Post by sarahncharlimai on Aug 4, 2008 11:47:39 GMT
Boy don't i know Ive got this little one, i can not begin to tell you how hard Ive found having to little ones, Darci is so demanding she feeds constantly, sicks it back up does not settle she cry's so much she always seems unhappy, Ive made numerous trips to the docs as I'm convinced that their is something wrong with her possibly acid reflux last week i was given a urgent appointment for her to be seen at the peads clinic 6WKS away, and after another bad few days i took her back the docs and we are just at home waiting by the phone for a emergency appointment for today i feel like i can no longer just cope, Ive tried her with formula but she is just worse and still does not settle after having 6oz, Ive tried cutting out dairy infacol and colic drops with little effect, just feel like I'm at the point of crisis now, the amount of guilt i feel about not been able to give Charli the attention she needs weighs so heavy on my heart especially as she is losing weight and i just don't seem to have enough time to cox her to eat. My mum has been great having Charli for me but finds Darci to much hard work on her nerves, Sometimes i feel like people just think that its me thats depressed and maybe to some extent i am but honest the other night she cried from 7.30pm till 12midnight and nothing we could do would settle her, god knows what my neighbor's think. Sorry for going on! missed you all anyway and i will try n get some pics on at some point. will let you know how we get on fingers crossed!
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Post by mum2rachel on Aug 4, 2008 12:02:29 GMT
oh wow, i've just read both your posts about Darci & Charli- you've certainly got your work cut out at the moment . I do hope you get some positive help from this emergency appt . I do wish that drs would realise that Mum's do know when somethings not right, i had a similar experience years ago with my second boy , mind it took them 3 years to believe me - so hopefully you'll get your help sooner. Are you in touch with anything like Homestart, they were very helpful to me earlier in Rachel's life, they support families that are finding life abit tough, there's usually one in every area, nice people non judgemental just want to help families going through difficult times - i went to a mums group but people do home visits , play wiht the other children etc- might be something to thikn about . Hope appt coomes through soon . Take care Susan
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Post by pinkshell1110 on Aug 4, 2008 23:06:13 GMT
awww bless you hun you do seem to be having a tough time.i totally agree with susan mums know best. hope you get some joy from your emergency appointment, darci isn't allergic to milk is she? have you tried changing her formula,jasmin was the same and as soon as i changed she was like a different baby for a few weeks then it turned out she had acid reflux too and was put on gaviscon which totally did the trick hope things improve very soon for you. charli sounds like she's doing great bless her,cant wait to see some piccies lots of love n hugs shell,charlie and jasmin xxxxxxxxxx
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Post by sarahncharlimai on Aug 5, 2008 10:06:08 GMT
typical, the hospital phoned yesterday saying they could not see Darci till 2day at 3, after i waited in all day for them to ring, Pinkshell: Darci is mainly breast fed she has a bottle at night as she would only go 3hrs else and a occasional bottle in t day if she getys to much, they say its very rare but not impossible to be allrrgic to breast milk, thats why i had tried to cut dairy out, she'salso been using gaviscon but it dont seem to make a differance, i just want to be able to enjoy her like i did Charli she seems like she is in pain, im taking my tent and sleeping bag with me today and if i have to camp there to get them to help her then i will lol
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Post by pinkshell1110 on Aug 5, 2008 12:45:57 GMT
you go girl ! dont let them fob you off hun. hope you get exactly what you want and what darci needs. lots of luck let us know how things go love shell,charlie and jasmin xxxxxxxxxx
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Post by lisajg on Aug 5, 2008 18:03:28 GMT
Big hugs and hope you manage to see someone today. It can be exhausting when they're so little and demanding. My oldest Sam was hard work when he was a baby too, used to scream for hours and just wanted to be fed all the time + hardly slept, in the end they said it was just colic and it did get alot easier as he got older. Once he was past that difficult early stage he was an absolute dream and still is today Hopefully it will start to get easier soon, take care xxx
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Post by sarahncharlimai on Aug 5, 2008 19:11:59 GMT
Im so fed up, went for the appointment and the pead basically said, all baby's cry and be sick and that he thinks that i am depressed! I know its not me that is depressed, yeah im a little run down and low but its not depression, surley anyone would feel like that if they were constantly feeding or trying to settle a crying baby. He has said that she can start on donperadone not sure if its spelt like that but he does not think that it will make much differance and that he is gonna refer me back to my HV to do a postnatal check with him, i basically told him not to bother lol. Why is it that they automatically pressume its that? She has got to go back in 4wks so mark says he is going this time 2. Im not sure what to do now about feeding my family think that she may settle longer and go longer between feeds if she goes on t bottle full time but im not sure as she is defo more sick with formula? She is 4mths old now
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Post by pinkshell1110 on Aug 5, 2008 20:56:09 GMT
OMG they werent very helpful i really feel for you hun i had the same with jasmin but luckily the change of formula and gaviscon worked a treat, have you thought about keeping a diary just to show them at your next appointment. i dont know if it's to early but people say that going onto solids sometimes helps ! So sorry i cant help you hun sending big hugs and love love shell,charlie and jasmin xxxxxxxx
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Post by sarahncharlimai on Aug 5, 2008 21:15:31 GMT
thats what me and mark have said tonight that we are going to do a diary, and mark coming with me next time, he wants a 2nd opinion or to go private has we defo feel like its reflux and that she is in pain. ive heard things impove once weaning begins but they say not to till 6mths so not sure what to do.
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