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Post by jodie13121 on Jun 20, 2007 19:28:30 GMT
hi im jodie im 19 , i have two little boys, ashley 2years and thomas 5months, i am currently 10weeks pregnant and was told y'day at my 1st scan there is a chance my baby might have downs, i was devestated at first but even though its only been a day i dont feel sad anymore, just worried how i would cope if it came back that he/she did have. how does everyone cope? ive looked around the site and its so useful and also seen pics of your lo's they are so beautiful. i have a more detailed scan on friday where i am assuming they will give me a little more detail, but just wanted to say hi. your all really fab ppl for what u do and how u cope, i hope i can be half as good as u all xxxxxx
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Post by lizzymd² on Jun 20, 2007 19:44:16 GMT
Hi jodie
at 10 weeks I take it it was nuchal fold? Don't worry yourself. Lots of people are high risk but not all are lucky enough to have a downs baby.
I say lucky enough because its so special and rewarding.
Feel free to ask any questions, some of us have been diagnosed during pregnancy some not.
Lizzy
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Post by jodie13121 on Jun 20, 2007 19:54:50 GMT
it was my dating scan, they just said that the back of the babys neck was thicker than should be and they are doing further tests(friday) being only 19 with 2 children already i know it would be hard, but being a moher, i know i would cope, its what we do isnt it
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Post by lizzymd² on Jun 20, 2007 20:04:16 GMT
Yip it is, you sound very mature for 19
Best wishes for friday, make sure you pop back on and tell us how you get on
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Post by jodie13121 on Jun 20, 2007 20:24:34 GMT
ive had to do alot of growing up before i was ready as i had my 1st at 17 and 2nd at 18. but i really wouldnt wish for anything else. i'll pop back on friday evening and let you know. everything happens for a reason, its part of life. add me to msn if you have it jodie13121@hotmail.co.uk xxxx
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Post by Tace on Jun 20, 2007 20:34:33 GMT
Hi Jodie, wishing you all the best for Friday, you do sound very mature for 19, 3 kids under 3 just as well you are young, youll need all that energy.
Tace x
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Post by claireyd22 on Jun 20, 2007 20:40:09 GMT
Hi Jodie and welcome. Just wanted to say that I hope all goes well for you on Friday, but whatever the outcome I'm sure you will cope, You sound so mature and a strong person and you're right in saying everything happens for a reason. I think its only natural that you're thinking 'how will you cope' but I'm sure anybody who is having their third baby with 2 little ones already would be thinking the same. I know I would, lol. There is a couple of mums-to-be on here who are expecting babies with ds, don't know if you've found their posts. Take care and let us know how you get on, love Claire x ps, i'm mum to George 1 who has ds and Esme 7 xx
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Post by nikki on Jun 20, 2007 20:47:59 GMT
hi jodie i hope it all goes well 4 you on fri i was 19 when i fell pregnant with my daughter georgia but i didnt find out until she was born that she was ds.
nikki and georgia x x x
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Post by shirley on Jun 20, 2007 21:09:04 GMT
Hi Jodie, looking forward to getting to know you better, you sure sound like you have your head screwed on. Keeping you in my thoughts, keep us posted
Shirley xx
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Post by Rilith on Jun 20, 2007 21:21:39 GMT
Good Luck for Friday Hunni
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Post by max on Jun 21, 2007 8:30:22 GMT
hi, I'm Max and I feel ancient knowing you are 19 with 2 kids and another on the way!!! AND your little one is 5 months did I read that right? BRAVE LADY!! My baby boy is Caleb he's 9 months and is fab. He is healthy and developing well so no need to worry too much. If your baby does have DS, you'll have tons of help and support and any problems can be dealt with if they crop up. I think - though I may be wrong Nikki was 19 when she had her little girl - might have just TOTALLY embarrassed myself though. Your baby is lucky to have you as Mum, you have the BEST attitude in the world! - let us know how it goes.
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Post by max on Jun 21, 2007 8:32:51 GMT
doh - Nikki already posted!! That'll teach me to read things properly! By the way Jodie - where abouts are you from?
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Post by jodie13121 on Jun 21, 2007 15:31:36 GMT
im from staffordshire. yea my youngest is 5months, this one wasnt planned(then again nore were my 1st 2) but no matter wat my kids will all get the same amount of love from me, im just not sure how my partner would cope? ive been single mum since i had my 1st, only met my partner 6months ago whilst pregnant with my 2nd and he's been great, he also has 2 children(but doesnt see them anymore) im nervous about tomorrow, but yet same time i want it to hurry up so i can find out and if my baby does have ds, i have loads of time to read about it and find everything out before he/she arrives. what would everyone say is different between a ds baby and a baby without? (hope i dont offend) sorry if i have offended, im not very good at this
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Post by mum2rachel on Jun 21, 2007 16:44:48 GMT
Hi Jodie, I'm not offended by your question, for me the difference at first was the problems with feeding, but Rachel is now nearly 6 mths & when I think back to those early weeks they seem so unreal. Now there is no difference between caring for Rachel & caring for any other baby(as she has no heart probs ). I can only say how it is for me & we are in such different circumstances- but Rachel has given us so much love & we've met many new friends & found out what real friends are & we've cried & despaired & worried about the journey ahead & Idon't know what else to say, but that I'm thinking about you. Susan
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Post by nikki on Jun 21, 2007 18:55:26 GMT
hi jodie im not offended either id be asking the same questions if i was in your situation aswell. the only difference that i noticed from birth was georgias feeding problems like rachel. but i cant really say more than that as georgias my only child. soory i cant be of more help. nikki xxx
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Post by Daniella on Jun 21, 2007 20:01:43 GMT
hello and welcome to the site, we are all a friendly bunch who are here when you need help & advice
the biggest difference i would say is that a child with downs tends to have a developmental delay (read developmental benchmarks in facts and figures) again with the feeding, i was unable to breast feed joshua - i expressed and bottle fed him for 6 weeks.
just look at the site as much as you c an and ask as many questions as you want and we will all try and help you out as much as we can
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Post by max on Jun 21, 2007 21:10:23 GMT
It's difficult to know what is different as I've not had any other kids, so far nothing as far as I can see - except he had lots of tests in hospital. I am still breast feeding Caleb (only twice a day now though) and he finger feeds well. I suppose there is no way any one can tell what problems a baby may have - even if it doesn't have any special needs. Of my friends with babies I think I've had the least problems - he seems a bit prone to coughs but thats it. He had jaundice when he was born which I know is common. If the baby has heart problems it will be a bit different but nothing that you can't cope with. Will be thinking of you tomorrow.
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Post by sarahncharlimai on Jun 21, 2007 21:29:47 GMT
Hi Jodie so pleased you have found this site i also live in staffordshire and found out during my pregnancy that my only child Charli has ds, Good luck for Friday but whatever the outcome im sure you will cope pm me if you want to ask me anything or just post on here i dont mind i would not be offended by anything take care hun x
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Post by humphreysfamily on Jun 22, 2007 17:57:59 GMT
hi jodie. Dont worry at all my first child has downs i never took any tests in my pregnancy because no matter what the out come my little girl was loved from the start clarissa ois now 13 months and even though she has a complex heart condition she is bright and learning every day. Ima also pregnant now with my second child 29mks and i had the tests this time and its clear of any downs and its a boy so dont worry cos as i found out there is loads of support for us all. traceyxx
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Post by lisajg on Jun 22, 2007 18:26:22 GMT
Hi Jodie Welcome to the site, I've just been reading through your emails. Hope all went well today, whatever the outcome your baby will be a huge source of love. Children with ds have some differences to typical children, mainly their development can be slower, sometimes they can have medical problems, but every child is an individual so you could read alot of stuff about down syndrome which might not even be relevant to your child iykwim? I feel really lucky to have a little boy with ds and I'm sure you'll feel the same if that's how things turn out for you. Take care and don't worry about asking questions, we like talking about our little angels so ask away
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Post by claireyd22 on Jun 22, 2007 22:53:59 GMT
Hi, hope you are ok after your appointment today. In reply to your question (I'm not offended either) the differences I've noticed mostly is the physical delays, ie, sitting up, crawling etc. However, George gets about by rolling everywhere so i don't feel he's missing out in that way. Also, at the beginning he had problems with feeding but is a little dustbin now lol. He also had heart probs which were corrected with major surgery when he was 6 months, he's come on brilliantly since then. As someone else has said their will be lots of appointments to attend which can be quite time consuming. I've found George to be a very placid and content baby and no trouble at all to look after. Feel free to ask any questions. Take care xx
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Post by debsbabe on Jun 22, 2007 23:16:07 GMT
Hi Jodie
I hope all went well with your appointment today.
the differences I found with Cameron were to start off with his feeding wasn't great, i couldn't breast feed him and he was a very slow feeder. he has had reflux which resulted in him coming off milk earlier than he should of and he doesn't do well on anything acidy to drink. the other things have been his physical development he was slow learning to sit and late crawling and he still isn't walking but that is the case with him not nessercerily all kids with downs have this problem or are as delayed. Cameron suffers with hypotonia which means me has very low muscle tine which is why he has been so physically delayed but he is a bright little button and very mischievious!
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Post by Vicki on Jun 23, 2007 15:02:44 GMT
Hi Jodie, hope your appointment went Ok yesterday! I wish I had asked more questions when Katelyn was just born! Wouldn't have felt like the only one in the world going through what we did!
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Post by jodie13121 on Jun 23, 2007 16:24:35 GMT
hiya, bit of an update. had scan y'day and the lady said she couldnt even see why i had been reffered as the baby has exactly the right amount of fluid that there should be. but i do still hav to go back in 5 weeks to be sure as i am only 10 weeks so might be difficult to tell. hope u dont mind if i still came on here to talk?? xx
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Post by Vicki on Jun 23, 2007 16:28:58 GMT
That's great news. What a worry they put you through for nothing! Best thing for you now is to relax, no more stress!! Good luck!
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Post by mum2rachel on Jun 23, 2007 16:31:28 GMT
Hi Jodie, it must certainly be a very confusing time for you, when the 'experts' can't agree. Stay on here as long as you need to , and even if at the end of the day your preciuos baby doesn't have DS we will still want to know if its a pink or blue one & how you all are. You keep talking ,we're all here for you. x Susan
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Post by jodie13121 on Jun 23, 2007 17:33:14 GMT
thank u all, uve been so great xxxx
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Post by Tace on Jun 24, 2007 9:16:59 GMT
glad it all went ok for you Jodie, and hope it continues to... would like to keep in touch too T x
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Post by claireyd22 on Jun 24, 2007 9:32:32 GMT
Thats great news for you. And do stay with us on here x
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Post by max on Jun 24, 2007 13:31:24 GMT
It's great that you came on here - the more people know about downs the better! Great news that the baby seems fit and healthy - good luck having 3 such young kids!!! Makes me want to go and have another!!
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