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Post by mum2rachel on Apr 28, 2011 14:19:47 GMT
Hi , as those who know us will know Rachel is now 4 & heading for 'big' school in Sept. I have tried & tried to potty/toilet train her, we had a good try last summer , lots of no nappy time since then & we've had a really good try this Easter hols gave up nappies determined to crack it but after 2 weeks I have cracked .She just won't ask ! She'll often wee if i make her sit & she will poo on it as well but she won't ask . She doen't seem to empty her bladder fully , she does a little wee then gets up & does an even bigger one usually all over the sofa etc . Her new shoes are in the garden now wet from wee.My house smells like a dettol factory & I'm getting more stressed And there's this really irritating nursery nurse that the continence nurse has asked to call , that's been twice now giving me advice all of which I've done with my other children , dolls on potty , sticker charts, lots of praise , new knickers that she's chosen , running taps etc - all of which might be great but if she won't ASK it's all a waste of time . I feel so bloody hopeless that I'm sitting here crying which is stupid I can feel myself getting wound up with Rachel & it just doesn't feel worth it - I'm fed up with everyone telling me she'll have to be out of nappies before she goes to school . They can't refuse to take her can they ? I have no idea where to go Or what to do - apart from stop. HELP Susan
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Post by karenh on Apr 28, 2011 14:28:24 GMT
Oh Susan, please don't cry ((hugs)) xx
I have no advice at all to offer as I haven't even begun potty training.
The one thing that did strike me from your post, does she request other items like drink, food etc? as Lucy doesn't request anything which is why we are starting with PECS. Just a thought.
The other thing, they cannot refuse her at school, I know other children that have started in nappies and from what my portage worker said, they are not allowed to discriminate.
Like I said not much help, but here with a virtual hug for you both xxx
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Post by sarah on Apr 28, 2011 14:38:09 GMT
Oh - so sorry that you are feeling stressed - big hugs to you. xx I would say that potty training is/was pretty high on my list of massive deals for me, so I do understand how stressful it is! First of all...they CANNOT refuse to not take Rachel at school because of nappies - and I guess she's now got a statement, and that's what that's all about - her 'additional needs' so definitely not! And secondly... Daniel has been out of nappies for about year and half, BUT still does not always ask to go, so are you maybe going for too much at once? He's reliable (mostly!) but we got in the routine of just taking him at regular intervals, then once we learnt roughly what his weeing/ pooing was like,(!!) we've gone a bit longer - at the start is was every hour or so, but he's quite a camel so probably only does about 4 wees a day. After that Daniel could tell us if we asked him, and its only been in the last month or two that we've taken a back seat and waited for him to tell us... for quite a while he was reliably dry, but only because we (and school) took him to the loo. I know you may have already tried this, but have you asked peeps at DownsEd? They were the ones that gave me the confidence to try. Much love xxx
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Post by sarah on Apr 28, 2011 14:40:33 GMT
PS - I've had children (without special needs) start in reception still in nappies/not completely potty trained, and its all been very discrete, and no other children have ever noticed xx
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Post by mum2rachel on Apr 28, 2011 19:38:20 GMT
Thanks for your replies. Karen , she asks for everything using words & only occasional sign , but I'd thought about pics & had downloaded a pic of a girl sitting on the same potty as hers & the makaton symbol , talked to her about giving it to me when she needs to go but no effect ,she probably doesn't understand the idea. Sarah I think maybe you're right I've been expecting too much altogether , I need to go back to just regular sitting . Haven't really had a chat with Downsed , they just keep reminding me every hols that we need to try again . I think I just got myself a bit wound up this afternoon especially seeing her new shoes full of wee . Deep breath, tomorrow is another day. Thanks xSusan
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